Episode 4: What type of adoption is the best fit for you?
Apr 30, 2020
There are several different ways you can go about adopting a child. You need to go within yourself and see what feels right for you. There are many things to consider so try to base it on what feels best for you.
In this episode, my goal is to get you more in touch with the best adoption type for you and how you go about figuring that out. Adoption is a lifelong commitment and you want to make sure it’s the right one.
- [06:06] You are free to choose the kind of adoption you want to have. Don’t be swayed by other people’s opinions. Your decision should come from within yourself.
- [07:01] For me, as a psychologist, I knew that I couldn’t handle a foster-to adopt situation.
- [08:10] With adoption, we have choices. That should be looked at as a benefit since there are many risks that come with adoption.
- [12:12] My husband and I had a lot of discussions before making our decision and thankfully, I was able to put away money so we were able to afford domestic newborn adoption.
- 13:29 International adoption was how we started out but the rules started to change and we were able to pull out, which looking back was the best decision for us.
- [13:55] Each type of adoption presents its own set of obstacles and you need to be prepared as best as you can be.
- [14:15] With any international adoption you have to look closely because there are a lot of laws and issues that are continually changing.
- [17:00] As you go through the adoption process, pay attention to what feels good in your gut. Your intuition is so important when choosing the right fit for your adoption journey.
- [18:40 ] Always do your research before making a decision and weigh the pros and cons of what will work best for you.
- [19:00] Going through an agency felt best to us for many reasons.
- [20:25] There are really important things you want to be able to ask an agency or an attorney when going through the adoption process.
- [21:03] Do you want an open, close or semi-open adoption. Most domestic newborn agencies are moving more towards open or semi-open adoption which means that there likely will be life-long contact with the birth mother.
- 22:05] When adopting domestically through the domestic new-born program, the birth mother has the ultimate say in who she wants to parent her child.