Episode 28 - Do I Need A Psychologist or a Coach?
Feb 06, 2020
In today’s episode, I am going to be sharing with you my thoughts on a question I have gotten so many times: What is the difference between working with a psychologist or working with a coach. I am a clinical psychologist and a coach, so I can speak to both.
The work of a psychologist and coach may be similar in some ways but they also differ in many ways. I’m here to teach you the difference and how you can figure out which you need in your life.
Before I start the episode, I want to let you know I am offering some limited and exclusive, 1-on-1 coaching. If you ready to delve deep into self-care, saying no, finding balance in your life, becoming assertive, and finding balance (mind, body and soul) to help you live your best life and be the best mom you can be then email me at [email protected] or head over to my website mamashrink.com and link to my calendar for a 15 minute session to see if we are a good fit. I am not sure when I will offer this again so if you are interested, please contact me.
- [04:25] As a psychologist, people come to me because they are usually working on healing something in their life whether past or current. There’s a deeper component behind why they’re coming in. The psychologist dives deep and figures out the layers leading to the diagnoses they are dealing with. People come to mental health professionals usually because they have a certain diagnosis such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, etc.
- [06:04] I take a positive psychology approach by meeting someone where they are at. Sessions can sometimes move at a slower pace. It depends on where the person is in their life and how ready they are to move past it. Even though I want people to move forward, I am also looking at what got them to the place they are currently at. With psychology, we deal with a diagnosis and look at healing before moving into anything else.
- [07:39] If someone has a lot of underlying issues, it is recommended that they see a psychologist or therapist before undergoing coaching. You can’t move someone to a higher level (which is what we do in coaching) when they are suffering or not in a place where they are ready to do that.
- [09:05] Coaches should not be doing coaching! I see people cross this line a lot and it’s dangerous.
- [10:11] If you are looking for a coach, make sure you know how they became coach....what is there training....rained because anyone can call themselves a coach and it is not a regulated field like psychology. Ask the coach a lot of questions like: the training they have, have they had supervision, coaching programs they’ve gone through, work history with coaching mentors, and the results they have gotten for people.
- [11:20] There are great coaches out there but you need to be careful. If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
- [12:20] Contracts are important for coaching because it can protect you but you need to look through it carefully before signing anything.
- [12:55] Coaching is usually more short term, action-focused, and you’re more accountable so it shouldn’t take as long.
- [13:07] When you’re paying for something, you get motivated quickly. With coaching, from the moment the agreement takes place, you are already in action. You’re willing to do the work.
- [14:07] Health insurance usually pays for therapy.
- [16:08] Basic principles for coaching: more short term, more motivational, more inspirational, not dealing with a mental health diagnosis, more present and solution-focused, and looks at behavioral outcomes.
- [17:27] As a therapist, I know when people need to be pushed and when to pull back. With coaching, it’s a lot of pushing you into action and much more motivational.
- [25:25] Psychology and coaching should be strength-based. Everybody has strengths and we should always looking for this. So we need someone to point it out to us.